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Change

 

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Too often we view change as impossible or really difficulty, yet at the beginning of the year most of us commit to changing some aspect of our lives in the way of resolutions. However, even as we commit to these changes, we are already thinking about how difficult it is going to be and how much it will require of us.  For many of us we give up before we start. We adhere to that old adage, “you can’t teach an old dog new tricks”.  Usually when I hear that, my response to that is yes you can, the dog just has to be willing to learn.  Based on that premise here are some tips to help change any behavior that you really want to change.

  • True change requires commitment. When challenged or stressed it is easy to revert to old behaviors, as they provide that something we need for coping. It is at times like this that it is important to remember why you are seeking the change. Getting support and encouragement from friends, family, a spouse or even a coach will help you remain committed. Remember going back to your old behavior will cause you to lose what little ground you’ve gained, and make you vulnerable to self-defeating talk.
  • Do the opposite of what does not work. Look at what you have been doing that is not working and do the opposite! You already know what does not work because it is not producing the results you desire, so try something different.
  • Do more of what works. When things are going well, don’t just take it for granted. Examine what you are doing that is helpful and do more of that!
  • Focus on what you can do rather than on what you cannot do. Don’t beat yourself up for what you cannot do. It will only erode your confidence, and cause you to feel self-defeated, thereby preventing or slowing down any progress.
  • When you see any progress, stick with the plan. True change occurs gradually over time, because it evolves from a foundation of learning and growth. Big rapid changes usually don’t last as they have no foundation. When times get tough, when you become stressed, or a threat occurs, big rapid changes disappear as they have nothing grounding them.
  • Change anything. If you can’t make a 180 degree change, change what you can. Any change is a good place to begin. Appreciation of the process will help you appreciate attainment of the goal even more.

If you want change, you have to make it. If we want progress we have to drive it.

Susan Rice

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